"Sometimes I go to church. Ya, church. I go there to understand how they deal with each other.
You know. In church, they usually have ritual ten minutes for sermon. Then another ten minutes, the pastor will ask the audiences, "Is there anybody having problems?"
Then a person raises his hand, "Ya, I just lost my job."
And everybody consoles him, gives him pat on his back, after that The pastor leads them to make dua, they pray together for that person. And He ask again anyone who has problems, another person raises his hand. And so on.
After everything is done, a person talks to the person who lost his job, "Hei, in my company opens recruitment. Maybe you can send your resume."
The point here is, the genuine love and care are real. They do care toward each other.
There is another story that I know about a person who left Islam, and I ask him the reason is because, "I just never felt love other than here. When the first time I go to church, I felt like I was loved. They really love me. They cared about me."
And it's real, it's a real lesson for us. What if we do that in our community, we show our care each other. Real care.
There is one story again about a woman who live so far way in the middle of a land. She is a daughter of a pastor from one only church on that land.
And one day she has a dream. She saw ka'bah. And she tried to find out. Then she went to the closest Mosque there. After long way rode to the Mosque, she met with a person there, but that person told her to leave, "Hei, it's a sacred place. Go away." it was because she was not on veil. Then she left , "it must be from devil." She was very disappointed with that person.
She ignored that dream. But after a while she had the same dream again. It bothered her. Then she tried to find another Mosque. Lucky, she met syekh Omar, and they talked. After that meeting, she took syahadah.
THE point that I want to make here is, how is our way to treat others. Think about it!
If we don't even learn how to treat others, how we can show them if this religion is right. We treat all people the same treatment, not just to the same religion. WE SHOW THEM THROUGH OUR MANNER. OUR AKHLAQ."
(compilation from some talks of ustadz Nouman)
Personal experience :
Couple of times, when I sit down on a bench or somewhere else, then met some people who dress up casually, just totally different with me. Then, to avoid awkward moment, I started conversation. Then we talked about anything.
And in the middle of our conversation, she said, "Ya, usually people who dress up like you would not talk with people like me. I mean, who dress up like me like this."
And all of a sudden I felt so Indescribable. I did not know what to say.
Implicitly she was saying that usually people like you are so arrogant. And think that they have no sins. And can't talk to people who are kuffaar.
And this awkward moments, not just happened once. But, couple of times. Same Indonesian, and said that to me. I felt like I was slapped on my face.
Familiar case :
I have friends, they are LGBTs. They are good people. They really have beautiful heart. Their care towards others is not a joke. They really have reasons, they have story behind what they do. Some of them really have very bad memories which make them like that.
One aunty that I really care about. She is really good person. Once she said to me, "sometimes I feel like to be normal again. But when I see people who are on veil, but even worse on their behavior. Don't even care with others. What's the use of their veil then??"
In our reality, on veil doesn't really indicate that we know exactly what IT is?
But, don't make that as an excuse to delay it. It's just our first step to go on the next way to better ourselves.